
My Uncle Adolph Westheimer (far left, with his siblings, circa 1930) died two weeks ago at the age of 94. I will miss him very much. He was a really great uncle, and was practically a second father to me when I was young.
Like his younger brothers Sam and Junior, who died before him, and like his little brother Siggy, who lives on, Uncle Adolph was a modest man. Along with so many others of the greatest generation, who lived through the depression and served in World War II, he did his duty proudly and came home to raise a family and become a solid citizen. Uncle Adolph was a veteran of Iowa Jima and a volunteer in Korea, but you would never know that from hanging around him. He did not boast, brag, or even speak about such things.
According to family legend, the doctor attending the birth told my grandmother that Adolph was too sickly to live. My grandmother ignored the doctor and nursed her first-born back to health. When Adolph was a toddler, he thought that his name was Adog, so he called himself Abow-wow for awhile. The name Adolph wasn’t very popular in America during World War II. Adolph became Joe during that struggle and the name stuck all through his professional career at Southern Pacific. Two of his favorites songs were “The World Is Mine Tonight” and “I’m A Ding-Dong Daddy From Dumas.”
It is impossible to distill all of the great memories I have of Uncle Adolph in the space of a few minutes or even a few hours. Two things stand out that I want to talk about.
First–the driving. I spent literally hundreds of hours in the back seat of his car when I was young. Uncle Adolph’s running commentary on the shortcomings of other drivers became part of the very essence of my automotive being. Even to this day, I channel his denunciations effortlessly. When I tell my passengers that the driver ahead of me is “making a career out of a left turn” it is my Uncle Adolph speaking through me.
Second–a conversation. It is sometime around 1998. Both of my parents are dead. After a career as a federal prosecutor, I have gone to Washington to work for Ken Starr on the Whitewater Investigation. I become one of Judge Starr’s deputies and participate in the grand jury questioning of the President of the United States. In the quiet of an evening phone call Uncle Adolph softly reminds me of how proud my parents would be. A simple gesture on his part. Coming straight from the heart. Moving me deeply.
And now he is gone. We are saddened, but feel fortunate to have had him around for so long. Our hearts go out to Aunt Cookie and to my cousins, Paulette, Linda, and Vaughn.



